Except for the smallest of percents (true on both sides) even pretty chubby women are pursued by men who want to sleep with them. Of course those men often aren’t offering what they want so they turn them down. The situation is perfectly symetric with both genders, especially the less desierable ones, being denied what they want.

Sure, girls feel bad about being unattractive and undeseriable. They want to be flirted with and asked out on dates. But don’t underestimate the number of men who feel insecure and unable to attract female interest. Young men see hundreds of girls they want to sleep with every day, including ones who are chubby, and their frequent failure to have sex with them leaves them feeling like a failure. The guys might prefer to have sex with a more attractive girl but being turned down by someone who is self-pitying about their attractiveness is an extra blow.

Ultimately, dating is pretty much a zero sum game. Both sexes are in the same situation of competining for mates. Many guys are horribly insecure. I mean how else could it be that simply asking a girl for her number, objectively a simple task, could inspire so much fear and reluctance in men. At least girls can sympathize with each other about their predicaments rather than giving each other shit about not impressing the other sex.

Do girls get hollered at? Sure. But women are also incredibly harsh to men who express interest in them. It’s not that most of these girls are evil, it’s that girls often feel offended, disgusted and even intimidated when a boy they find unattractive tries to pick them up. However, while some guys just have no class the difference between a smile and a number or a hurtful reaction that says you’re a slimeball is merely whether she finds you attractive.

In short dating blows goats. Women are probably evolved to be disgusted and intimidated by men they find unattractive to avoid rape and evolutionarily disadvantageous sex while men have similar incentives to pretend they are confident and sucesful and hide their insecurities. Frankly, I would have taken getting hollered at from cars growing up rather than being the one who had to approach women in clubs and bars and get crushed at my most vulnerable.

Ohh yah just to add another point. Studies have shown HUGE effects on women’s estimation of attractiveness based on the man’s reported income (like the physically most unattractive male photo bumped up to the near the top when women were told he made 300k). That might sound like a good thing but it’s really just the opposite.

I mean not only does this double the stress but it means men have to put all their eggs in one basket. I mean a man who does worse professionally is thus much more screwed.

Truepath objects to complaints about the way that women’s bodies are portrayed in media: So I’ve long been disgusted by the socially approval of complaints about models being too skinny and demands that ‘real’ women, i.e., less skinny women, be……